如何保持婚姻长久 怎么处理婚姻关系

　　摘 要：结婚对于女人来说只是步入婚姻殿堂的第一步，每个女人都需要懂得如何保持婚姻长久。本文从传播学的角度入手，扼要分析了几个保持婚姻长久的策略，希望对当代女性有所启发。
　　关键词：沟通；外在美；三策略
　　作者简介：张文杰，广西师范大学研究生
　　[中图分类号]： C913.13 [文献标识码]：A
　　[文章编号]：1002-2139(2012)-16-0-01
　　Commitment is only the first step in a long-term relationship, but to most women, the next objective, making the commitment last for a lifetime, is even more important.I hope this paper will inspire you to take a close look at your intimate relationship before it’s too late.
　　In business you periodically re-evaluate your job responsibilities, discuss personal and team goals and long-term strategy. This application is essential in a marriage. You signed a contract and marriage is a serious business.
　　Many women get so caught up in feeling of betrayal that they don’t examine what motivates their man to stray from his commitment.
　　Men are visual and are attracted to youthful, healthy-looking females. Clean, bouncy, shiny hair, white teeth, smooth skin, and a body in reasonably good shape without excess lumps and bumps are turn-ons. It’s important to make the most of your assets and keep them in good working order; this adds to your confidence and sense of well-being. Toning and trimming are ego building. You feel better about things and are more enthusiastic about life.
　　Whenever we are in a business situation, buying or selling furniture, a TV, or even a car, there are three famous principles : Don’t confuse selling with installing; Keep it simple; Ninety percent of business is being there. These rules easily transfer to the marriage contract. Perhaps in our struggle to get your husband to commit, you followed the first rule in business: don’t confuse selling with installing. It worked! You want to get the commitment, and you didn’t want to confuse the deal with cumbersome details that might have scared him away. This is a very common mistake. Perhaps you neglected to mention that your ex-husband didn’t pay child support, and now you’re having financial difficulty. Or maybe you knew your mother would have to live with you, but you thought if you mentioned it, your fiancé wouldn’t want the arrangement. You went for the commitment and nothing else mattered；you didn’t want to confuse the issue with the facts. He may be resentful and feel duped now that you are , in reality, dealing with the problems you concealed.
　　We can effortlessly overwhelm ourselves by making every situation too complicated t handle. It’s not always easy to process the changes that marriage brings, the reversals of our expectations. We are, after all, human beings with limitations. Remember the second rule：“ Keep it simple,” by breaking down the large problems into small, solvable ones. And keep talking. Remember, you married your best friend.